Why Do We Persist In Feeling Unhappy?

I look back at "how life was" some years ago for me, and remain amazed at how long I put up with feeling unhappy! Now, sure, I know why I was unhappy for so long and I have turned it around. But why are humans on a roller-coaster of Happy/Unhappy... Calm/Anxious... Worried/Relieved... Hating/Loving (and up and down we go)?

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Well, to be honest, we put up with this roller-coaster ride because we can't form out how to stop it. That is the biggest challenge we have, bar none.

But look at it this way - unhappiness leads us to reasoning negatively practically all the time. Sometimes it is very subtle. But most of the time, if we took a pen and wrote down every belief that came up (and didn't edit any of them), we'd shock ourselves at the negativity, disapproval, complaints, criticisms and non-loving stuff that spins in that space between our ears most of the day and night!

Yet we can control how and what we think. There is nothing complicated about it. Here is a basic way to get started:
We perceive we are having a negative thought, for instance "Sheesh, look at those wrinkles!" We say, "Oops, that's sure negative!" We remember, "I prefer to turn that upside-down and think the opposite (or some true and positive) thought." Then right away we say, "Wow! I'm seeing vibrant today!" Repeat #1-3 each time a negative belief pops into our awareness.

How hard is that? But, there are challenges with this process:

Firstly, a hard fact. Negativity is our norm. We have it from birth, quite absolutely - most of us probably heard "No!" as one of our first 3 words! - and don't ask it as being whatever out of the ordinary. We absolutely don't illustrate negative reasoning as something that is threatening or sabotaging to us.

Secondly, no one has ever systematically learned to do whatever even close to this type of self-managed thought-evaluation process - absolutely not in school, and rarely in personal amelioration programs.

Lastly, no one absolutely cares to be that vigilant of their thoughts to get all the way off the roller-coaster!

But I learned a way; I teach it today; it is easy to learn and master. And it will convert your life. It's called Releasing and will show you how subtle (or obvious!) our negativity is - but especially how to turn it around systematically and with success.

I don't like the idea of being anyone's puppet-on-a-string, or that whatever else is running my life and making my decisions for me. You don't either, I'll bet.

Here are some real-life examples how negativity sabotages us. They may seem determined as you read them, but at the occasion they happen? They slide in and make us believe it is truth, so why bother with it?

1. You set a great personal goal with enthusiasm. The first belief you have is something like, "This is a pipe-dream. I can't have this! It'll never happen!"

2. You meet a new person, arrange a first date. The first belief you have when you get ready is, "I look so unattractive! He/She will be so turned off by my [hair, teeth, belly, laugh]..."

3. Getting ready for work, you think of your day's schedule, like this, "How I dread an additional one meeting with ___! And how am I ever going to close that research I promised for today? What was I thinking?"

4. You plan on going to a family event. Your mind says, "It's going to be the same old thing...again. Gee, if I could only get out of going!"

It is the subtle and constant habit of negative thoughts and reasoning makes this happen! You might as well be run by some covering force - because the negativity is doing it anyway!

Learn how to identify and let go of the negative reactions to life! Turn your reasoning around. It isn't that hard when you have a process and a system! Your life will convert dramatically for the better!